Breaking the Silence: Mental Health in Construction by Toby McCosker

In the high-pressure world of construction, strength is often measured in silence. But at what cost?
The construction industry is built on resilience—long hours, tough conditions, and relentless deadlines. Yet beneath this exterior, mental health in construction has become an unspoken crisis. As someone who's spent years leading teams and building structures from the ground up, I, Toby McCosker, believe it's time we face the truth: the mental toll on our tradies is real, and it's costing lives.

The Hidden Stress Behind Construction Sites

Behind every completed build lies a workforce pushing themselves to the edge. The stress of managing timelines, cost blowouts, weather delays, and physical exhaustion is relentless. For many in the industry, talking about mental health feels like a luxury they can't afford—or worse, a weakness.

I’ve seen it firsthand. I’ve felt it myself. There were moments where even the sound of the nail gun felt overwhelming. And I know too many blokes who’ve quietly carried that same weight until they couldn’t anymore.

Mental health in the construction industry isn't just about the individual—it’s about a culture that’s long rewarded suffering in silence. The phrase “tough it out” has become a mantra, but it’s a dangerous one. Left unchecked, that mindset turns job sites into mental health minefields.

Why the Culture Must Change – and Now

The suicide rate among tradies is tragically higher than the national average. That statistic isn't just a number—it’s a reflection of a systemic failure to support the mental wellbeing of those who build our communities. And it’s a failure I refuse to ignore.

As a builder, entrepreneur, and father, I, Toby McCosker, have made it a point to challenge the “harden up” mentality on my own sites. We talk about safety every day—but what about mental safety? What about spotting burnout before it turns into breakdown?

We can’t keep saying “she’ll be right” when blokes are walking off site and never coming back. It’s time we equip our workforce with more than just hard hats and high-vis—we need real tools for mental health support, and a culture that welcomes vulnerability, not punishes it.

Leadership Means Speaking First

It’s not enough to hang up a mental health poster in the lunchroom and tick a box. Real leadership in the construction industry means asking, “How are you really doing?”—and then being willing to listen.

I’ve learned that when I open up about my own stress or struggles, it gives others permission to do the same. We have to make mental health conversations as normal as talking about weather delays or concrete strength. This shift starts from the top. It starts with owners, site managers, and project leads—not just mental health professionals.

I want the next generation of builders to know that being open, seeking support, and prioritizing mental health is the new definition of strength.

Building a Healthier Future for the Trades

The future of construction must be sustainable not just in materials, but in mindset. Imagine an industry where mental health support is built into every project plan. Where wellbeing is part of the job, not an afterthought. Where mental health training is standard—not optional.

That’s the vision I’m working toward. It’s one I encourage every employer, contractor, and apprentice to embrace.

Conclusion: Let’s Build with Heart

If we want to future-proof this industry, we have to take care of the people who power it. Mental health in construction is no longer a side conversation—it’s central to everything we build.

I’m Toby McCosker, and I believe it’s time we stop rewarding silence and start recognising courage. Together, let’s build a culture where it’s safe to speak, safe to feel, and safe to be human.

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Tobias (Toby) McCosker is the founder of Built By Toby. After two decades in construction and business, he now shares raw lessons from the frontline.
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